As I stepped onto the stage to introduce my mentor, Margaret Lynch, these words surprisingly were NOT running through my head.
[caption id="attachment_2899" align="alignleft" width="250"] Demonstrating the crazy reaction most people have when they tap for the first time :-)[/caption]
In the past, speaking on a stage in front of 150 people would have been preceded by a month of rigorous dieting. My inner dialog would have been completely consumed by thoughts like, Oh God, my thighs are going to look so enormous! What the hell am I going to wear? Everyone will think Im a total fraud...who the hell do I think I am talking about weight loss, when Im struggling myself?
But there was none of that this time, just peace, acceptance, confidence, and an inner knowing that I am enough, just the way I am. My only thought about body size wasnt until I was actually standing on stage when I heard myself say, Holy crap, I haven't even thought about how fat I look! Wow, this is cool, all that Third Chakra tapping is really paying off! I couldnt believe how calm and relaxed I felt.
The third chakra relates directly to your personal power, how you hold that power and how you interpret the power of others.
Where weight loss is concerned, it dictates your willpower and your ability to exercise self-control. Anodea Judith?, the author of Eastern Body, Western Mind: Psychology and the Chakra System as a Path to the Self (one of my most valued reference manuals) says, your relationship with yourself will mirror the relationship you have with your parent or authority figure, so if you grew up fighting your authority figure, it will be highly likely that you will fight yourself as an adult.
How does this play out in your relationship with food?
If your parent was controlling or dominating, you are likely to rebel against any food restrictions or diet plans, repeatedly sabotaging yourself like a child who wants to fight back.
If your parent was absent or passive, you are likely to have the same attitude towards yourself, without rules around food, and never saying no to anything you desire.
If your parent was deceptive and indirect, you will be a master of avoidance and manipulation, both to yourself and others, and youll probably sneak food while publicly dieting.
If your parent used criticism and shaming to control you, their critical voice will replay in your mind ad nauseam as the soundtrack to your life
So heres what I want you to do:
Close your eyes and imagine your authority figure standing over you. Imagine them at their very worst...criticizing you, controlling you, or dismissing you. Make them as big and ugly and vivid as possible, see their facial expressions in crystal clear HD, and then imagine you have a big plate of delicious food in front of you. Take note of your reaction to the food. Do you want to eat it? Or do you want to push it away?
Notice your intensity on a scale from 010 and start tapping through the points:
Look at you
Just plain mean
Oh no, I will NEVER be like you
I vow to never be like you
I made this vow, deep in my third chakra
And Ive spent my whole life proving how different I am
I work my ASS off, so that Im not like you!!
But the truth is, I am just like you to myself
I am critical and judgmental
And just plain mean, to myself
And that makes me angry!!!
And so sad!!!
Thanks [name of authority figure Mom/Dad/Auntie Jane etc]
You really screwed me up
Ive spent my LIFETIME fighting you
Vowing to never be like you
And here I am
Because of you
Fill in the blank here with words you want to say to them, just let rip and continue tapping through the points until you notice your body relax.
And now that I see the truth
I can open myself to healing this
Because the truth is, Im NOT like you
This is an old vow
And it no longer serves me
So I am choosing right now to make peace with this
And I am choosing right now to STOP giving away my power
Because thats exactly what Im doing
When I hurt myself
When I sabotage myself
Im being just like you
And now that I see this truth
I can begin to heal this
Because Im not like you
Im not like you at all
And I am choosing right now
In this moment
To forgive you
Because through forgiveness
I claim my power
And allow myself to succeed
This is my true nature
Totally amazing in all my glory
Proud and confident and powerful
In my own right
I am claiming my power today
Right now in this moment
And I am choosing to allow my success
And let my true nature shine
You may need to spend more time with the tapping for negative emotions before you can get to the positives. If you havent done much work around this relationship, this might be a highly charged exercise for you, so just speak your truth and keep tapping through the feelings that arise.
I LOVE this work and I LOVE helping you.
P.S. If you're struggling with self-sabotage and want help, there are a few spots open in my small group program.
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Students in this group report a 90% reduction in their emotional eating within 2-3 months. And the results are permanent!